When self doubt opens the door we need to find a way to believe in ourselves and push forward.
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At our core we can easily get caught up and clouded with our own insecurities.
We may not feel good enough, smart enough, qualified enough, or worthy enough.
Unfortunately, these insecurities can become our undoing, our own attack on the good things in our lives if we let them fuel our internal voice.
We may pretend they are not there, and for the most part, as an interim measure we can succeed. But we need to deal with them, or possibly face their return.
There is a heavy level of difficulty in the brutal honesty of facing yourself, thinking about what it is you are insecure about, and how you can work through that within yourself.
It may help to give yourself a good amount of alone time to really think; go for a long walk, or sit and take notes, whatever gets you into that space. Think about the times when you felt insecure or doubted yourself and take note. Once you have a good idea of the themes (not handsome enough, not qualified enough, not deserving enough, and so on), think about why you feel like this. Because here’s the thing—you are handsome, you are amazing, and you got where you are because you earned it or have what it takes! Please realize this and accept it. Find ways of accepting your worth.
Instead of dwelling on your doubts, focus on your actions and how you can accept that in yourself and how you can be proud of yourself, and move forward from there.
It is important to remember this is breaking an old habit and forming a new one. We need to be aware of both the time and consistency required for breaking and forming any habit. We need to find our confidence in those little dark corners within ourselves. We cannot let our past dictate our future, let alone tear it down. Set yourself up for success in all your future endeavours and relationships by understanding your insecurities and seek out ways that will work for you to begin to slowly let them go.
Be prepared for new ones as they will pop up from time to time. Just give yourself time to realise what is causing this and how you can find your worth amongst the mask of doubt.
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